My profile spells it out, I'm a 57, married, and am the full time care-giver for my 88 year old mother. She has been living with my husband and me for about five, maybe six years.
My mother is old and infirm, but don't confuse that with diminished mental capacity. She may have both hips replaced twice and other issues, but she is sharp and stronger than she looks, and she is my mother.
We have experienced inadaquate care before, but seldom has it gotten as ugly as this.